When Your Relationship Status Is ???

I received  a few messages and requests for readings this month regarding relationships that  were of the "What the hell is going on?" and "Should I dump him?" variety. As I  stated in my energy reports for this month and April (the beginning of the  eclipse cycle), this was the time that relationships would be placed under a  spotlight - the do or die moment - because whatever is not allowing us to  thrive as our authentic selves has to exposed and healed or be let go. So relationships - either romantic or not - either have to transform and grow with us or end once and for all.
 
We all have been conditioned to seek out security, something and someone to hold on to. But that is not possible now as everything and everyone is constantly changing. Our illusions about what a romantic relationship is and what love is must crumble away, so that we can open fully to the unconditional, unwavering constant of the vibration of Love. When we have unrealistic expectations about a person and the  life we want with them, these too must fall away so that we can stumble through  all the smoke and mirrors to reveal the Love within ourselves and be able to offer unconditional love to the other person. 
 
Depending on where you are  in your spiritual progress, you may project your feelings of lack and blame onto this other person for not giving you what you need, for not rescuing you in your time of despair, for not loving you as you deserve. But this person is not capable of swooping in and righting the wrongs in your life - only you can do that by releasing your karmic garbage from this and past lives and opening yourself to something new - even if you are unsure of just what that something new is. Remember Love is not an emotion, it is a vibration and cannot be faked and cannot be destroyed - unlike the deluded emotional version of "love" that has disappointed and hurt all of us at one time or another.

Additionally, beliefs about sexuality have to adjust and rebalance as sexuality can no longer be used as a means of control, manipulation, or humiliation - but embracing the  sacred element of sexuality opens us even further to a vulnerability that most people are uncomfortable with and run away from. But the expression of healthy  sexuality will be an essential component in future romantic partnerships so one way or another all of us will be facing this aspect of ourselves and discovering  new levels of expression with another. Clinging to old versions and aspects of  yourself - or another person - out of security because it is known, even if  disappointing and hurtful, only keeps you in the past, feeling stuck, and out of  the universal flow that is always moving forward.
 
Because of technology, we have been conditioned to expect instant results. We no longer have to wait months to receive a letter from overseas because we immediately receive an email  sent by a friend from anywhere in the world. So we have come to believe that if  we do or say that, we get a certain result - our expectation is met and we feel  secure for a moment. But our spiritual process, especially when it involves  lessons with others, does not work this way. Some of us will have to accept that  loved ones will leave our lives for this lifetime as their paths are now  diverging from ours. Others of us will welcome new loved ones - which may even  be old loved ones returning transformed but our old methods of relating to each  other will no longer work as we are both "new". Whether this person is new or  old, you will be entering uncharted territory together where the old rules of  relationships will not be able to be followed. Still others of us will be  perfectly happy traveling paths solo. All of us are always following paths that  will allow us to best learn the lessons that we are meant to learn. We only need  to stay in the now, not looking back and not worrying about the future.
 
We all have free will and can choose who we travel our path with - even those who have deep soul connections. If this person makes you nothing but unhappy and you feel that you are bashing your head into a wall, let go. Remember that having a soul connection with anyone does not make them yours. If they choose to be with another, open up yourself to other possibilities and experiences as you must respect their choice otherwise you are placing conditions on your love which brings it to an emotional level rather than a vibrational level thereby limiting and hurting yourself. 
 
If you have met the person  who is truly the one you are meant to be with - the person who wants to be with  you, too - everything that is meant to happen with this person will happen even  if right now things seem delayed. You must allow this person to be a sovereign  being just as you are. Nothing can be forced to happen more quickly or in a  certain way. Not being together right now is not wasting time because even in  separation each of you is growing and expanding, learning lessons you can only  learn for yourselves alone. Communicate your feelings honestly and
lovingly, even if you receive no response right now. Everyone is undergoing a quantum  healing and all of us must trust the process and have faith. 
 
We know so little of what we truly are and what all of this means in the grand scale of things - we only sense that something miraculous is unfolding -- so we only need to allow ourselves to be guided by Love.  Each of us is not the same person from day to day and must become comfortable with peeling away and shedding layers of ourselves (and allowing others to do the same at their own pace) in order to be all that we are so we can live a life filled with passion, to create and be  something unique and beautiful, to be the embodiment of Love.

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